How many compromises will you make?

According to Wikipedia, to compromise means to … make a deal between different parties where each party gives up part of their demand. In arguments, compromise is a concept of finding agreement through communication, through a mutual acceptance of terms—often involving variations from an original goal or desire. In other words, you give up what you really want because people surrounding you want you to. Or, you give up what you really want because you believe people surrounding you want you to. We are usually taught that compromises are an inescapable part of our relationships. I do not agree 🙂 We need compromises when we feel insecure about ourselves and our loved ones. We compromise we should not be affectionate …

Continue reading

Does love at first sight exist?

Can you love someone the moment you look him or her into the eyes for the very first time? Let’s go back in time to the point when we were young and watched Disney movies. We all did, didn’t we? We watched Lady and the Tramp, Beauty and the Beast and several fairy tales where the prince kisses the princess. The message seemed to be that for each and everyone of us there is a perfect partner, a once in a lifetime Mr(s). Right to wait for. Or to actively, maybe desperately, look for. And when we would meet the person, we’d know. It would be love at first sight. What a sad belief that is! If there is only …

Continue reading

Personal challenge update

Photo: MariĂ«t Mons, www.marietmons.nl There are three Personal Challenges waiting for an update. Personal Challenge #0: Vegan for a month I have been vegan now for almost three weeks, and it is way easier than I thought. I stacked some healthy food stuffs like raw cocoa nibs, chia seeds, goji berries, flax seeds and whole wheat crackers. I found out that extra bitter chocolate fulfills my monthly chocolat cravings. Weekly we buy maybe 20 kilo of fruit and veggies for smoothies, salads, veggie stews and more. My parents have a large garden and started harvesting potatoes, bringing us a bag full each time they visit. I thought I would miss cheese, but I don’t. I do crave the salty, chewy …

Continue reading

My open relationship

We all look for love. We all look for excitement. How can we keep our need for exciting moments fulfilled when we are in a long term relationship where we hold back ourselves and our partners, trying to fit in the picture society created of people and their relationships? All people seem to be looking for the perfect partner. Dating sites are very popular, although old fashioned flirting in disco’s and bars never ceased popularity either. Girls gossip with their friends about boys, and the boys pay attention carefully. Who will ask who to go to the prom? Who dares to ask for a secret kiss? Who is getting married? Finally… we meet our perfect match. The ideal man or …

Continue reading

Conscious Shopping makes a Difference

We always have a choice and we are 100% for everything we do. This includes shopping. Whereas we might think that buying one particular item at any particular place will not influence the planet, it will do so. Do you know the Butterfly Effect? Everything you do matters to all of us and forever. Even the smallest actions we take can have a huge impact on the whole world. Maybe you value animal welfare and you wish no animal to get hurt. But you love your steak. There are so many people eating meat, what difference does it make whether you buy a steak or not? Or you love ice cream. There’s just a little milk in there. It’s sad …

Continue reading

Life is fun

What is the meaning of life? Why are we on earth, why do we exist? Are we here to suffer? Watching television, reading the newspapers or glossy magazines, it seems that, indeed, we are here to get hurt. To feel pain. We read about war, about homicide. We watch programs where there might be one winner at the cost of many losers. We feel ourselves less miserable because there are so many others more miserable than we are. Everything is a choice. We choose how we feel. We choose the rain to influence our mood. Or we smile, independent of any kind of weather. We choose to watch tv, to read magazines full of gossip and judging stories about celebrities. It’s …

Continue reading

How to make chai tea

Chai is spicy, Indian tea. There are many recipes for making great chai, most of them taking a lot of time. But I want chai now! Here’s the perfect recipe 🙂 For about two mugs of chai take: ½ cinnamon stick 3 pieces of cardamom some black peppercorns 3 cloves loose tea, for example green, black or rooibos tea The perfect taste depends on your personal preferences, so vary with the amounts of spices. Grind all spices roughly and put with the tea in a tea egg. Pour hot water in two mugs, add the tea and give it some time. I like my chai without additions, but feel free to turn this chai into chai lattĂ© by adding some milk …

Continue reading

Can I blame the rain?

Sunday morning. The kids are still sleeping. Boyfriend is reading a book. No appointments yet. The perfect moment to go outside for a long ride with my horse. But… it’s raining. I could stay at home, get a little grumpy. Get nervous because my plans for the day get mixed up. Direct my bad mood at my boyfriend and daughters, making them feel bad too. It’s not my fault I feel bad. It’s because of the rain. I blame the rain for how I feel. But is that fair? Is the rain in any way responsible for me choosing to go for a ride with my horse or not? There is only one person responsible for the choices I make. …

Continue reading

Our Hearts don’t Judge

At many moments throughout the day we form an opinion. About the clothes people wear, about the book we are reading, about the train that is late, about our colleagues at work or about the weather. Are minds work at full power. Imagine yourself looking at a painting. Someone walks up to you and asks: “What do you think of this painting?” There are two ways you can answer this question. Answers from the mind The first way of answering is answering from the mind. You might say you like the painting because of the techniques well used, or the distribution of colors over the canvas. You could also answer you don’t like the painting for the same reasons. What …

Continue reading

Vegan for a month

Last week I was in Norway at the Morten Hake Summit. This congress about authentic relationships had a line up of great speakers, including Steve Pavlina, Zan Perrion, Johnny Soporno, Rob Brinded, Noah Hammond and Andy Yosha. Their speeches were inspiring and the speakers themselves stayed the whole summit, giving all participants many opportunities to shake hands, hug and have a one on one chat. The organizers and participants of the Summit appeared to be awesome people. A spontaneous hug can be the start of a warm friendship. And I hugged many people! Some returning topics during the conversations I had were open relationships and healthy food. Many new found friends appeared to be vegan or into raw food. When I …

Continue reading